June is bridal show month in Phoenix and we always see an increase in calls from brides asking when they should book hair and makeup services for their wedding day. A licensed, experienced makeup artist is worth his/her weight in gold because he/she will be able to help you identify styles/looks that will compliment your dress while still allowing you to look like you. This being said, highly sought after artists book quickly. With that in mind, you should book your hair/makeup artist no less than six months before your wedding as noted in the Wedding Wire timeline below.
Finding the Right Hair and Makeup Artist
Referrals are gold. Ask your family, friends, wedding planner, venue or anyone else who’s opinion you value. Wedding blogs, bridal magazines and social media outlets can also provide insight into who you may want to call.
Things to Consider
A good hair and makeup artist should be able to identify your skin tone, suggest the most appropriate colors for your complexion, and recommend hairstyles based on the shape of your face, the style of your dress, your accessories and your personality. You need to be prepared to show photos of the hair and makeup looks you like to provide a foundation with which to start.
Booking a Trial
Schedule your makeup trial 30-60 days before your wedding date. Trials are typically held in the artist’s studio or salon and offers you and the stylist the opportunity to create your hair and makeup look and make changes, before your wedding day. Unlike dress shopping, which typically involves your bride tribe, your trial is not a spectator sport so it is best to minimize the number of bridesmaids that want to join you. Salon space tends to be limited and too many bodies (and opinions) may prove distracting for the stylist.
This is your time to bond with your stylist, to provide feedback, to ask questions or seek advice and to be comfortable with the finished look. Your stylist will take notes (and hopefully photos) to document the finished product to eliminate any confusion on the big day!
The Wedding Day
Ideally you will want stylists/artists that will travel to you. Some may charge a travel fee depending on your location but this shouldn’t deter you from booking an established experienced artist. The hustle and bustle of a hair salon may not allow you to feel as pampered as you need to feel on your wedding day. Be sure to ask, before booking, if your styling team will travel to you.
This Real Bride Series edition introduces Kelley and Neil. Read about their amazing proposal!
Kelley’s Love Story:
What is your name and your groom’s name? Kelley & Neil
What was your wedding date? Thursday, December 29, 2016
How did you and your groom meet? We met while working at the Wisconsin Early Autism Project in Madison, WI. The first time we worked together we both noticed each other. It actually took one of our client’s moms to convince Neil that I was, in fact, interested in him.
We are dying to know, how did he propose?! Funny you should ask, because I wrote a whole prose piece about the proposal the day after it happened:
He gasped, audibly.
“Wow!” he breathed, “Just… Wow!”
Neil was totally captivated by the Grand Canyon. I couldn’t help but smile at my gangly rock hound as we continued further into the park. I parked the car near the geology museum, filled my purse with two bottles of water and a sandwich, and then we both got out and began walking.
Neil’s gasps and murmurs continued along the walk towards the park center. I couldn’t help myself and began ooing and aahing along with him: it was such an incredible sight!
Along the walk, some conversations were struck up with other canyon visitors. Meeting Sam, the bassist of the metal band Barrier, was probably the most eventful: we encountered him, barefoot and bare-chested, meditating on the ledge of the canyon. Neil joined him and, when he finished, almost fell into the canyon while performing a sun salutation in his boots (“Jesus Christ, sweetie!”). After that scare, we chatted with Sam for a bit, learning his name, profession, and that he was from Chicago. His band was on tour and heading to California for a show that night. In a second run-in with Sam, he looked at us with his warm, kind eyes, and said, “I don’t’ know if I’ll ever see you again, but I want you to know that I love you guys.”
“We love you too!” we told him, practically in unison. Looking back, I get the feeling that he knew what Neil was about to do…
During our walk, I commented, “Wouldn’t it be awesome to do engagement photos out here? We should do that at Christmas! Assuming you’ve proposed to me by then, of course.”
I literally had no idea what was about to happen.
Eventually on our hike, we turned around and made our way back to the museum and the car. We went into the museum and, after a brief exploration, went over to the gift shop corner and made some purchases. Upon putting them in the car, I said, “You know what? I’m tired, and a little hungry. Why don’t we go get some food?”
“Well… Will we come back? Because I’d like to come back if we leave now…” Eventually, Neil convinced me to get back out of the car and come marvel at the canyon together one last time (“The sun has gone down a little, so it looks different now!”).
We plunked down on a ledge and gawked at the view. A little down the way, a couple was struggling to fit themselves and the canyon into a photo on their phone, so Neil offered a trade: we take their picture if they take ours. Immediately after our photo was done, I sat back down on the ledge, and gazed out at the gorgeous natural wonder, contemplating life, love, and nature.
“Hey Kelley,” I hear behind me.
Upon turning around, I saw Neil on one knee, holding a ring box with a gorgeous band of diamonds in it.
“I… Wh… Is this…? I— Yes!” I said.
He hadn’t even said the words yet, but I didn’t care; I knew what they were, and I already knew my answer.
Everyone around us gasped and smiled and clapped. A whispered “congratulations!” with a huge smile came from one woman who walked by us.
Later, in the car, I teased him for not actually asking “the question.” “You didn’t even give me a chance to!” he countered. But then, he took my hands, looked me in the eyes, and asked me, “Kelley Noel Rolak, will you marry me?” “Yes, Robert Neil Thomas Graupner,” I smiled, “Yes I will.”
What were your wedding colors and why did you choose them? Our colors were variations of primary colors (red, yellow, and blue). The meaning was twofold. First, the three primary colors are prominent in the Autism awareness symbol. Second, Neil has Scottish heritage and, while we eventually nixed the idea of the groomsmen wearing kilts for the wedding, we wanted to pay homage to the Dalrymple family tartan (Neil’s grandmother’s maiden name).
Where did you find your dress? Would you say that finding your dress was relatively easy or difficult? I found my dress at Vera’s House of Bridals in Madison, WI. I knew I wanted a tea-length gown, and while at this expo, I saw a woman dressed in basically the perfect gown. When I saw her I froze, with my jaw hanging open. The woman wearing the dress saw me and laughed. She then came over to me and said hello. Of course, I was so excited, I was barely able to stammer out, “Dress! Where! Perfect!” She then let me know that she was a consultant at Vera’s and that all I had to do was call them to make an appointment.
The appointment itself was so much fun. I brought my mom, my sister, and future mother-in-law to come help me decide what dress to choose. The first dress I tried on was, of course, the dress I fell in love with at the expo. It was wonderful! There were quite a few options, and I didn’t want to miss something if it could be even more perfect. I’m glad I made that choice, because the dress I ended up choosing was the fourth dress that I tried on!
The dress itself was a relatively plain strapless tea-length gown. But the feel of it made me do the same “I love this floofy dress” happy spinning that I did in the first dress. But something was missing, so we tried adding a belt, which added some much needed bling. My FMIL suggested a jacket. I think we were both thinking of a bolero, but what they brought out was so much better: a lace 3/4 sleeve, portrait neckline jacket that buttoned in the back. In all of the wedding dress TV shows, it seems like every bride cries when they find “their dress.” Well, that was the moment I burst into tears.
So a relatively easy experience, but still storied.
Where did your ceremony and reception take place? Was there any special meaning behind the choice of the venue(s)? Our ceremony and reception took place at Superstition Manor in Mesa, AZ. While we both live and work in Wisconsin, my parents both have family in Arizona. I have even spent every Christmas that I can remember (except one) in Mesa. And the idea of having a winter wedding somewhere where it wasn’t ACTUALLY winter (sorry, Arizonians, but you don’t know what cold is) was also definitely a large factor in picking Arizona. Superstition Manor closes at 9pm on weeknights. We knew the party would last later than 9 pm, so we rented a party bus to take us out to Scottsdale for an after-party pub crawl!
What kind of flowers did you have in your bouquet and at the ceremony/reception? I had wildflowers that fit the color theme in the bouquet, including some dahlias. Neil was actually the one to take care of the floral arrangements, as I was busy with graduate school. I could not make it to the tasting at Superstition, so Neil, his mother, and my father went in my place. Neil picked the menu, scouted photographers, and settled all of the floral details. Knowing that I am a Star Wars nerd, he made sure that the florist included a light saber hilt in the handle of the bouquet. Brenda even made sure that the noise mechanism worked, which made the bouquet exponentially more fun! So I think Neil did a pretty great job with the things he helped with.
What was the flavor of your wedding cake? We had a vanilla cutting cake, with mini cheesecakes and mini red velvet cupcakes as the dessert.
What details from your wedding that made it unique to you? Neil’s uncle officiated our wedding, and gave us each a mate from a pair of Christmas socks as a metaphor for the cooperation we would need to develop in order to make our marriage work.
For our first dance, we used a piece of music called “Waltz for Zizi,” from the anime show “Cowboy Bebop.” The father-daughter dance was to “Not While I’m Around,” covered by Jamie Cullum. I had had my heart set on using Jamie Cullum’s version of the song for years before I realized that it was a cover of a song from “Sweeny Todd,” but I decided I didn’t care.
We signed our marriage certificate with a Darth Vader pen.
Neil has a 125-year-old railroad pocket watch that he carried with him. My father gave it to him for Christmas. It had belonged to his great grandfather while he was working as a doctor for the railroad as it was expanding to Santa Fe, New Mexico.
I occasionally play with an old time band in Madison called the No Name Stringband. I had hoped they would be able to play for the wedding but their schedules did not allow for it. As a gift to me, the band recorded a new version of their original piece, “You Look Alright, Still,” for me to use in their absence.
Did you provide favors to your guests? If so, what were they? We had small cactus tea lights in red glass tea candle holders. We also made coloring books and had sets of crayons for everyone in case they were waiting during pictures.
Other than marrying your husband, what was one of your favorite moments from your wedding day? The photo booth at the wedding was so much fun! We also had rented a party bus to use after the wedding!
Did you take a honeymoon? If so, where did you go? We took our honeymoon 3 months after the wedding. We went on a Disney Cruise through the western Caribbean: Cozumel, Mexico; Grand Cayman, Cayman Islands; Falmouth, Jamaica, and Disney’s Castaway Cay. The cruise even had a Star Wars day at sea!
What is one piece of wisdom you learned from your planning experience that you would like to share with future brides? Delegation is important! If you are busy, allow someone you trust to take the reigns. You may even end up with the best bouquet ever!
Who were some of the other vendors that were a part of your dream team? Lasting Impressions Weddings – Brenda (floral)
Royal Escape Productions – Joshua (photography) – When we first met our photographer to set up a contract, the three of us ended up chatting for an hour before we finally got down to business. Joshua from Royal Escape Productions is easy to get to know which made having him and his team at the wedding even more fun. It truly felt like they were friends who just happened to be taking our pictures.
Superstition Manor – Brittany (venue)
Save this Dance – Tyler (DJ)
Dear Sabrina: How important are brows to your overall look? I over-tweezed my brows and now they look sparse. How can I make them look fuller before my wedding day? – Browless Britney
Britney – I am so sorry that you over-tweezed your brows but just know that it happens to the best of us. Oh are there some horror stories I could share with you!! Let’s tackle your question in three parts.
How important are brows to your overall look?
I cannot stress enough how important they are to the overall look on your wedding day and just for everyday beauty. They are what frames the windows to your soul (your eyes). Having great brows, defined brows and well maintained brows is powerful and contributes to a ‘pulled-together’ look. As a makeup artist I am constantly asking my clients to grow them out so we can rehab the mistakes.
What tips can you give us for perfect brows?
The best tip that I can give you is put the tweezers away, let your brows grow for 4-6 weeks and give me a call to make a brow appointment. If you don’t have 4-6 weeks for regrowth, we can give you a brow tint to tint the hair and a little bit of the skin to give the illusion of hair. Also you can pick up any brow kit that will help you fill in your brows and make them more groomed. We love Urban Decay’s Brow Box – available at Urban Decay, Ulta and other beauty stores.
If our brows and lashes are sparse how can we help them to look fuller?
Eyebrow and eye lash tinting is great to give that illusion of fullness especially for eyebrows that are growing out. To encourage growth, try mixing castor oil and coconut oil together to create a custom lash and brow serum. Your brows will be healthy and fuller in no time.
Friendor Friday Spotlight: Elizabeth Douglas Photography
We are fortunate to have an amazing tribe of vendors that we work with to create dream weddings for our clients. Every other Friday we will spotlight one of our vendor friends, or friendors. These amazing artists are in the trenches with us. They battle deadlines, work in the blaring sun, walk an average of ten miles on event days and more. We do this because we all love making people’s dreams come true. When you need of a photographer, caterer, florist, planner, venue, videographer, etc. we hope you will entrust one of our amazing friendors. We think they are rather spectacular!
What is your name and the name of your business? Maria Elizabeth Fossler, Owner and Lead Photographer at Elizabeth Douglas Photography
How long have you been in business? We have been a formal business sine 2012 for 5 amazing years!
What is your favorite part of your job? I’m a people person, so I LOVE connecting with people and making them feel good about themselves…straight out of the camera! Having fun and conversing during a session and making people smile makes life complete!
“Who Doesn’t Love LOVE?”
What is your favorite par of the wedding industry? Who doesn’t love LOVE? My husband and I (the Douglas portion of the business, and my second shooter), love LOVE stories. Capturing the LOVE in a couple’s eyes, in their touch, and seeing the love in everyone else’s smiles during a wedding makes it all worth the lugging around of gear and constantly having a camera up to our faces! Whether it’s a Mr & Mrs wedding, a Mrs & Mrs, or Mr & Mr…we believe in love, and love capturing it!.
What is your favorite memory being in business? Wow, that’s not a fair question…our favorite memory. For me, I have two. The first happened during a boudoir session where a group of friends had gotten together to participate in some specials I was having. They all hung out as each person took their turn having their photo taken. A woman about my age went first. Now, I say my age, as she was a mom of older teens/adults (at the time), and was a bit unsure about the whole boudoir thing. When I showed her an image from my camera of her, her eyes brimmed with tears and I got the most sincerest Thank You ever…along with a, “I can’t believe that’s me!” Another of my favorite memories was capturing the birth of one of our wedding couple’s daughter. It was something I will never forget, and I still tear up looking at the images!
Is there anything new or on the horizon for you? We’re excited to announce that we are moving into doing more corporate work, including head shots at our new location in Tempe! We would love to give you a new updated headshot! Mention Babydoll Weddings and we will give you a discount!